Does It Get Any More Real?
I think you make an excellent point.
I agree that there are great inequalities in the system. My husband for instance may work 70-80 hours per week, to maintain our financial situation, while paying child support that goes directly to the state, because the ex refuses to work at all.
He sacrifices time with us, to make sure that ends meet. If he were not as driven, or did not have skills that are in demand, we could be in a very, very different situation. I can't imagine what a father who makes $10 an hour, and pays $75-100 per week in support must have to sacrifice, food, transportation, etc.
If my husband were paying a reasonable rate of support, particularly because the child does not benefit from the support, he would no thave to work quite as much as he does. Granted, we have chosen to live where we live, and provide our children with private education, but we sacrifice certain things because of these choices.
We are paying for the ex's choices, day in and day out. It is not a level playing field.
Additionally, the new act of credit reporting, when the arraearage exceeds two months support is ridiculous. Particularly for people who are struggling to pay their bills on time, then to go and ruin their credit, so that they have to pay higher interest on home loans, auto loans, and even insurance rates, as these are now credit based.
They make it impossible for a NCP, or father as is usually the case, to attain a quality of life.
It's forced poverty, in my opinion.
a response......
I have followed this and I think you all can agree that until the child support system is changed so that all children are treated equally we all will be discriminated against.
The state takes away the rights of children to spend equal time with both parents so that the father can be made into a welfare provider for the mother. I have it in writting from the state that they don't care who pays as long as the state doesn't have to.
So all of us need to write and call their respective politicians to get the federal and state laws changed to go away from income based support. Mothers need to be held to the same level of economic responsibility as fathers.
Do this by making support based on the poverty level modeling the foster care payment system to foster parents that goes on basic needs. If parents want to provide more then they can on their own.
Once the state is forced to treat us equally they will be more likely to allow us to have more time with our children. Any father who goes out of his way to work extra hours is playing into the system.
I refuse to work any overtime that will skew my income level so I will end up having to pay more support to my sons' deadbeat mother, she lives below the poverty level because she refuses to work and my boys know it.
Pepper all that you know with requests for help in this and let's change the laws.
And we march on.
I agree that there are great inequalities in the system. My husband for instance may work 70-80 hours per week, to maintain our financial situation, while paying child support that goes directly to the state, because the ex refuses to work at all.
He sacrifices time with us, to make sure that ends meet. If he were not as driven, or did not have skills that are in demand, we could be in a very, very different situation. I can't imagine what a father who makes $10 an hour, and pays $75-100 per week in support must have to sacrifice, food, transportation, etc.
If my husband were paying a reasonable rate of support, particularly because the child does not benefit from the support, he would no thave to work quite as much as he does. Granted, we have chosen to live where we live, and provide our children with private education, but we sacrifice certain things because of these choices.
We are paying for the ex's choices, day in and day out. It is not a level playing field.
Additionally, the new act of credit reporting, when the arraearage exceeds two months support is ridiculous. Particularly for people who are struggling to pay their bills on time, then to go and ruin their credit, so that they have to pay higher interest on home loans, auto loans, and even insurance rates, as these are now credit based.
They make it impossible for a NCP, or father as is usually the case, to attain a quality of life.
It's forced poverty, in my opinion.
a response......
I have followed this and I think you all can agree that until the child support system is changed so that all children are treated equally we all will be discriminated against.
The state takes away the rights of children to spend equal time with both parents so that the father can be made into a welfare provider for the mother. I have it in writting from the state that they don't care who pays as long as the state doesn't have to.
So all of us need to write and call their respective politicians to get the federal and state laws changed to go away from income based support. Mothers need to be held to the same level of economic responsibility as fathers.
Do this by making support based on the poverty level modeling the foster care payment system to foster parents that goes on basic needs. If parents want to provide more then they can on their own.
Once the state is forced to treat us equally they will be more likely to allow us to have more time with our children. Any father who goes out of his way to work extra hours is playing into the system.
I refuse to work any overtime that will skew my income level so I will end up having to pay more support to my sons' deadbeat mother, she lives below the poverty level because she refuses to work and my boys know it.
Pepper all that you know with requests for help in this and let's change the laws.
And we march on.
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